Fathers Do NOT Babysit Their Children


Hubby was home with the boys while I was out at a beautiful event the other day. After the ceremony, I sat down to eat at the reception with a couple others when I was asked, "Is your husband babysitting the boys?" Uummmm, no ma'am he's home with his children. 
A father being home with his children while mom is away is not babysitting. Those are his children that he has a duty to take care of. When mom is home with the children is she then babysitting? No she's home with her children so why then are fathers reduced to babysitters when they are spending quality time alone with their children. Has our society gotten so far away from men in general being able to be there for their children. Let's not go into black men being present in their children's lives, pulling the race card takes it to a whole other dimension. Give our men credit when and where it's due. When they are home with their children they are simply being the other parent. They are being a very present and active figure in the lives of their seed and that alone is a great thing! We have to stop downplaying the roles our men have as being fathers. Fathers are just as important as mothers to our children and they need to be afforded the respect as such. Yes there are some fathers who rather not be there. Yes there are some fathers who are immature, stupid, ignorant and selfish who don't want to be in their children's lives. Yes there are some fathers who are to fearful to step up the plate and get in line and position to be more than just a sperm donor.  (Oops did I just go in a little!) But there are also some mature men who understand the powerful position they are in being a father. 
There are fathers who adore seeing their mini mes grow before their eyes. Yes there are fathers who realize how important it is to be present in the lives of their children. Yes there are fathers who are pillars in their family circle. And guess what they are not? Babysitters! They are fathers who are doing their job as fathers are supposed to do and we as mothers appreciate that and everything else that they do. If we don't say it enough or haven't said it in a while, thank you! Because whether we like it or not you sir are the one we chose or the one that was chosen for us to  plant the seed for our wonderfully and fearfully made child(ren) and if that alone is the one good thing we did together let's not mess that up now. We are ultimately in this thing together. 

Until next time!
Crowns Galore

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