Lets talk about sex baby!

May 2015 will mark 7 years of marriage for Hubby and I and we are excited to have 7 years under our belts! It has been and continues to be a long road and process with many ups and many downs. We have tested the content of our vows, the written and the spoken ones to a full extent and yet we are still as happy as can be.

We were talking the other night when we realized the 7th year is quickly approaching and we agreed that we should examine and evaluate our marriage. I feel like there should be times in your life and your marriage where you look at the big picture and evaluate what is working and what is not working, what needs to change and what should stay the same and to be absolutely and completely honest and truthful with each other and more importantly yourself about it all.
So we talked about some things and we discussed if change was necessary. We started on the topic of sex. That's right! Let's talk about sex! For some reason sex talk during marriage is taboo for some couples. I'm sure if we research it, sexual issues are apart of the top 10 reasons why marriages end in divorce. I mean infidelity is a sexual issue, someone is having sex with someone else other than their spouse for whatever reason. Add in lack of communication and dishonesty and there is the perfect recipe for an unsuccessful marriage. If you talk about the problems you may be having in the sex department beforehand you be able to avoid the headache later.
So anyway, back to us, we talked about sex and what we wanted to change and what we wanted to do differently. We both made some very valid points and we also made resolutions to change some things. This had me thinking about myself and what I needed to do to incorporate the agreed changes. I realized, as many woman may have at some point, that the way my husband sees me and the way I see myself are two entirely different views. He can get turned on by the mere sight of a side view of my thigh and all I would see would be a fat jiggly wiggly leg. I could take a booty picture and see that I need to loose weight and he could look at the same picture and say, My Lord my baby has back! So sexy! Do I have anyone who knows what I mean? Who feels the same way?
I get it, its me, its been almost 10 years and 3 children later and I know that I'm not an unattractive person but I also feel like I need to look a certain way for myself to stand in front of a mirror and get turned on by the very sight of myself. This is what brings me to my crossroads. Do I continue on as is and just accept that this is it and enjoy that hubby enjoys every part of me or do I do something that makes me feel like he thinks of me?
Well, I've decided to embrace how Hubby sees me and enjoy the fact that he loves every pound of me and I further embrace the fact that I need to tighten up on some things.


Side bar: Has any one seen Knocked Up? The part when her producers meet with a very pregnant Katherine Heigel, I don't remember her character's name, and explains that she needs to tighten up a little more just tighten up! #Hilarious!


Ok, I'm back, I definitely need to tighten up. And me tightening up is my choice to become a healthier me. Hubby has never said to me, "Your overweight and you need to lose weight" he's always supportive of me in everything that I do. This is something that I need and want to do for me. I'm looking into an appropriate gym that can fit into my schedule and I will begin to pay attention to what I'm eating. I've already downloaded the Lose It app and I have this cute food journal I got from Wal-Mart on clearance for $1, actually 97cent!!  I understand that this will take time a discipline so I'm not expecting overnight change but I am expecting change and that's a good thing.
I mean I want to be able to get into some crazy positions and not get a cramp or throw a muscle out during some of our sack sessions I cannot continue to limit myself in that area! I also want to increase my stamina I need to be able to go in for the long haul and not be winded on the journey if you know what I mean.

There comes a time when you have to evaluate your life and make changes as necessary. We are all human and we are always changing and forever evolving so don't be afraid to change it up sometimes. Change for you and because you want to do so. Change is good! Change is necessary!

My crown today: Marriage/Life Advisor Crown

Until next time,

Crowns Galore

XOXO